Ben loves to have friends over after church sometimes on Sundays. I generally don't mind . The only time it poses a problem is when he has told them--but not me--they're invited. Today. After church. The last time he did this was for the Ravens playoff game. He leaned over while the offering plate was being passed and whispered, "By the way, Mom, a bunch of guys are coming over after church." He knows I won't get vocal in church. As soon as it was over I told him, "Stall them. You know what the house looked like when we left, don't you?" (It wasn't bad, but not my idea of "company-ready" either.)
"I know, Mom. They're just guys." "How many guys?" "I dunno. Maybe 6, 8, 10."
"What? How are we gonna feed them? It's not a good pay week (paid all the bills and we're eating soup today.) "Are they buying pizza or what?

"Yeh, yeh, it'll be fine."
When my nerves settled down, which happens a lot faster the more I do this thing called "spontaneous hosting," I realized this is good stuff. Good memories. This is one way Paul and the boys convinced me to get a big-screen TV. Play on my love for a crowd! (Paul and Ben built the entertainment center. It protruded into the narrow room before; now it sits back into the laundry area behind that wall. )
The guys make themselves comfortable. They don't wait to be offered drinks (the way girls do) but simply ask, "Mrs. Z, where's the ice?" And I point to the freezer with a knife that has scraps of tomato hanging off it.
"Would you like some salad, Nathan?"
"Ah, no thanks."
"Luke?"
"No, I'm good, thanks."
"Chris? Salad."
"Nope, no thank you."
"Son?"
"Nah, we're guys."